Everyone talks of “Father issues” but how was Mothers’ Day for you this year? For some mothers, it can be a wonderful time of being appreciated ‘for once’, or there can be disappointment that there isn’t the connection there that you would long for with your offspring. Alternatively, it can be an incredibly sad time, if you’ve lost a child or not been able to have children. At times like this, the flowers the rest of the world are buying and receiving are just excruciating reminders. Continue reading Happy Mothers’ Day?
It can be the hardest thing in the world to accept that our child or teen is struggling emotionally. We often unconsciously avoid admitting this because of the level of blame and responsibility we dread may be laid at our door.
It’s more straightforward to blame tiredness, school pressures or friendship problems than to look deeper and recognise that they are hurting and need our support. Finding a label such as ADHD may become important to us, linked as it is with the possibility of apparently simple treatment. However, there may be other more complicated factors involved and we may find it hard to face our own vulnerability and difficulty in coping. Maybe we weren’t able to bond with this particular child for whatever reason. Maybe preoccupation with our relationship breakdown has robbed us of time focussing on the needs of our child. Maybe we need them to be strong at the moment, so it’s easiest to believe that they’re coping fine. Sometimes we need help to face our own imperfections. We may need someone alongside us when dealing with the complexity of these feelings so that we can be our best for our child.
I’m pleased that the Duchess of Cambridge has opened the debate on these issues during this “Children’s Mental Health Week” . This is a cause very dear to my heart, as I’m in the final days of training for my Diploma in Child Counselling. Keep following me to find our more about the counselling work I offer to children from the age of 3 years old up. Please feel free to contact me to discuss how you can get the support you need on this journey.
If you or a loved one are feeling isolated, misunderstood and guilty at your inability to find any hope or pick yourself up, you may find some comfort from Tayana Simons’ recent Huffington Post blog “11 Truths Sufferers of Depression Will Understand (and Others Should Too)“. Continue reading Depression: Nobody understands, nobody can help
And you may ask yourself
Well…How did I get here?
And you may ask yourself
Am I right?…Am I wrong?
And you may say to yourself yourself
My God!…What have I done?!
(“Once in a Lifetime”, ©Talking Heads)
Never was anything in this world loved too much, but many things have been loved in a false way : and all in too short a measure.
Thomas Traherne, “Centuries of Meditations”, 2nd Century, 66
People often make the mistake of separating physical health from mental health, but a great new initiative “Healthy Bodies, Healthy Minds” brings the two together again. It provides low-cost access to exercise facilities for people suffering from depression. It is open to Basingstoke residents, who have been referred by their GPs. The first session is next Monday 5th Jan 2015.
“‘Tis the season to be jolly!”, yet Christmas is often the most stressful and fraught time of the year. Consumerist society sets very high expectations of the ‘perfect Christmas’, with thrilling gifts, unforgettable meals and enjoyable loving family times. However, even if we achieve it, it so often leaves us dissatisfied, disappointed and disillusioned with the materialist fantasy.
Welcome to Talking Journeys. My name is Joy Perry; I’m a therapeutic counsellor, working in Basingstoke, Hants. I’m experienced in counselling adults, young people and children with a range of challenges, including:
• anxiety • panic • relationship issues • depression • SAD • post-natal depression • phobias • family issues • affairs & betrayals • separation & divorce • anger • abuse • stress • bereavement • low self-esteem • loneliness • poor health & disability • caring responsibilities • difficult changes in life • work problems • attachment issues • domestic violence • adoption issues